Choose Carefully Where You Direct Your Attention

This post will hopefully be a familiar topic for many of you. It is not a new idea and you will find it in many different forms. It is the idea that what you focus on becomes bigger. You will see this idea in vision boards, the idea of ‘the secret’, the concept of manifestation, or the advice to ‘think positive’. As I said it is not new, but I find it is often worth remembering. I believe the reason this topic it is such a prevalent idea, is because it is true. I often work with my clients to explore the aspects of their lives that they are currently nurturing and growing with their attention and focus. Sometimes they are aware of their focus and other times they have not noticed that one area has become so all consuming. It can be a particular worry that circles over and over in their brain, taking up more and more of their time and space. Clients will often think that if they let go of the worry it is more likely to come true. Ironically focusing on the worry might be increasing that very likelihood. Mindfulness can be a great tool to start to increase awareness of how and when attention is being directed. If you can be aware of your thoughts as a non-judgemental observer, you can become more aware of your patterns. Sometimes just this increased awareness can be enough to shift the pattern. If the pattern has become more persistent, we move on to more active techniques. These techniques are usually personalized, but can include distraction and challenging unrealistic thoughts...